Often, we don’t consciously suppress our feelings, yet emotions remain trapped within the mind and body, never fully released. Over time, life becomes weighed down by the accumulation of these unresolved, painful memories. Feeling powerless, depressed, or lost of compassion toward life.

how much suffering must one endure to master the art of holding back tears and hiding away painful feelings?

Self-rejection leads to inner self-division. Rejecting yourself is like your mind turning against you, much like an autoimmune disease. The self-attacking thoughts deepen the internal turmoil.

Once recognize that these traits or behaviors aren’t truly who you are—“I don’t want to be anxious, but I can’t help it” or “I wish I could be more patient, but the feelings of anger and frustration overwhelm me.” By recognizing the patterns, then apply various healing techniques to address and resolve the underlying issues.

We often want to move forward, yet find ourselves overpowered and controlled by intense emotions. Traumatic memories and feelings tend to linger, making it hard to break free. Eye movement, a technique derived from EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), is a powerful tool for healing, helping to reduce the intensity of those emotions and facilitate emotional release.

(This is the translation of Chapter 1 of the book published in Chinese.)

The long, fruitless search left me both mentally and physically exhausted. How much further must I trek before I finally reach the end? How many tears must I shed to cease the crying? Dragging my weary body forward, I questioned what I was searching for in this lonely quest. In a hypnosis session, I felt like a child abandoned in a vast sea of humanity—left forsaken, helpless, and engulfed by waves of sorrow, powerlessness, and loneliness. The tears flowed like an unrelenting fountain.

For the first time, I was able to overcome this sudden fear, and it turned out to be not as scary as I thought it would be. Before, when I was suddenly attacked by an inexplicable fear, I was on the verge of psychological collapse and even thought of committing suicide to escape. This experience made me realize that this is just a kind of feeling that comes and goes, and may just be a symptom of anxiety.

Not only did she reduce work-related stress and anxiety, but she also drastically improved her relationship with her family, no longer taking out her frustrations on them or blaming them for her anger. "Since then, I no longer feel that overwhelming anxiety. No one imposed this pressure on me—aiming for 100% or even 120%." “Initially, I often had internal dialogues, constantly talking to myself in my mind...I realized that I had stopped."

Growing up in a large family, I often heard my parents say, "If it weren’t for supporting you, life would be easier." Their financial struggles made me feel like a burden, leading me to question, "Why did you bring me into this world?" Each time I saw them worry or fight over money, I became convinced I was the source of their pain, thinking, "Why don’t I just disappear? All I do is cause them suffering—I’m nothing but a burden."

Be free, be bold, be open. Forget about spelling, grammar, style, or structure. To capture your deepest feelings, let your emotions and thoughts flow freely.

Writing doesn’t need to be a long, arduous task; focusing on specific areas can be highly effective. Studies show that writing about significant life events for just 15–20 minutes on 3–5 occasions leads to great physical and psychological outcomes.

Writing doesn’t have to be a lengthy endeavor. Research shows that writing about significant life events for just 20 min over five consecutive days can significantly improve both physical and psychological well-being.

Journaling sharpens self-awareness, guides us into a deeper inner world, explores a full spectrum of emotions, cultivates openness, and teaches self-acceptance. This softens us and leads to compassion and empathy toward others.

We mistakenly take this collection as our identity, calling it the "self" or "framework of self."

We didn’t come into this world as blank slates. The brain and body determine how we operate. Nature or nurture, like personalities, many of our values and beliefs are not entirely our own but learned or inherited.

How much volition do you have? Can you simply flip a switch to turn off depression or become an extrovert or an introvert?

A strong sense of responsibility to provide and save could make your life miserable. Yet, at the same time, you’re tackling this heart-wrenching moral dilemma: How can I watch an animal or person suffer without doing my best to help? Does letting go make me ignorant, cruel, or even evil?

In the realm of spirituality and healing, the term "ego" is often discussed. The concept provides a convenient framework for exploring and understanding our identity. However, the ego is often labeled as inherently negative—insane, sinful, lustful, selfish, and greedy. Consequently, the ego is treated as a demonic entity that must be crushed and demolished.

Letting go can be incredibly challenging, especially when the person who hurt you refuses to acknowledge their wrongdoing. This leaves you feeling stuck in a dilemma: should you just forgive and move on, or fight for justice?

Trauma, whether large or small, shares striking similarities in how it affects the mind and body. Healing techniques aim to mitigate or eliminate the negative effects associated with traumatic memories or conditioning. This process helps restore equilibrium and balance within us.

For those who suffer from trauma, the behaviors may appear irrational but are often not due to a lack of understanding, willpower, or character flaws. Rather, “irrational” behaviors are the result of altered and distorted brain systems. Therefore, once we grasp a good understanding of how trauma affects our brain and body, we’ll be able to reverse the harm.

Emotions don’t come out of thin air. Emotions originate within us; we cannot distance ourselves from them. The reasons behind them might not be clear—they could stem from personal beliefs, experiences, or unconscious conditioned responses.

Self-autolysis is the water purification process, removing the impurities and dropping the false identifications or beliefs, allowing us to see with great clarity and return to our true nature.

We’re often fooled by emotions and fighting against our own emotions, whether pain, depression, anxiety, or anything else.

Eye movement is not a cure-all, but it reduces the intensity of emotions, lowers or removes the hurdle. Allows us to break free from emotional traps.

Non-dual awareness is not about relinquishing the distinction between good and evil or beauty and ugliness. But letting go of the strong attachment to a particular outcome, hence, brings you peace and freedom.

A spiritual journey comprises three phases: healing, awakening, and healing. Let’s break down what it entails.

Contrary to popular belief, love, compassion, purpose of life, and happiness have nothing to do with awakening—they are dualistic attributes of this world. However, these attributes are part of the human experience and bring us joy and fulfillment.